Let’s Talk Social Media, Shall We?

Lately, I have had this curiosity in my spirit when I’m scrolling my newsfeed on facebook, or the pictures on insta…..”what am I looking for here?”  I think it is a legit question.  What are we using social for, in our lives?  Is it filling a void that needs to be filled elsewhere?  What is it that we are using social for, and how is it using us?

The last year has been hard, to be honest.  If we are friends or you have followed me, you probably know that our youngest started kindergarten last year and about a month after that, my father passed away.  It was like a double whammie of grief.  Facebook became my support system {this seems very flawed as I type this.}  It was a way for me to connect with, interact and follow my “friends.”  Prior to this, it had been used as a way for me to reconnect with friends, share my story and I also ran a business from it {don’t worry, that has since changed, so I am facebook compliant

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However, as time went on, I found my heart hurting more.  I felt more left out.  I saw friends doing things together that I wasn’t invited to.  I saw people accomplishing things I wanted to, but wasn’t.  Jealousy crept in.  Bitterness too.  As those grew, so did the isolation.  Interesting cycle, isn’t it?  It’s like I was lost in what others were doing that I wasn’t living my life.  My eyes, mind and heart were glued to the screen watching everyone else live, while I sat and stared at a screen.  Not a great place to be as you can tell.

Thankfully, through my Health Coach Institute training, I learned to ask some hard questions.  Some of those included “what am I looking for here?”  “What is this giving me that is life giving?”  “What do I really want that can be found outside of my screen?”  As the questions began to be answered truthfully and at a gut level {anyone can do surface answers…..let’s be honest}, I realized I was looking for AUTHENTIC community.  People to do life with.  People who know my struggles and I know theirs.  People to laugh with.  People to share meals with.  People to pray with.  I wasn’t looking for clients, or people to help with their health.  I was looking for real authentic friendship that can be started online but can’t maintain or be continued only online.

I learned that I am a people person.  I need to be around people.  That is who God made me to be.  Sitting home staring at a computer, watching people live wasn’t meeting my unique needs.  I need community.  Consistently.  Not once a month community, or a facebook message community, but regular community.  With friends being in various seasons of life ~ some have littles at home still, some working, etc., this wasn’t happening {or I had to fight the lie that people didn’t like me.  And maybe they don’t, oh well.}  Thankfully, a mama friend from school initiated coffee with me last year and asked to do it on a regular basis, so God met that need.  So, in my pursuit of community, I began to look for part-time work.  Part time because I am still a mama, wife, health coach student and know I need margin in my life.  Full time would cause too much stress and no one wants that

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  Part time work would allow me to use my professional talents, gifts and abilities while getting some consistent interactions with other adults and not watching my screen all day.

So, tomorrow begins that journey.  No, I’m not working for the money.  Or the benefits.  Or because my business didn’t work, or because I don’t want to be a health coach.  I’m working for the adult interaction, the community.  Part of me thinks that is sad, but another part of me thinks that maybe that is just the reality with today’s society.  I’d love to hear your thoughts, friends.  There is a lot here ~ thoughts on social, thoughts on community, thoughts on life.

Love and hugs,
Melissa

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